Single ladies and gents in the US know that online dating sites are the best place to meet new people, make new friends and start relationships. With millions of people online, the odds of meeting your perfect person are definitely in your favor and any other approach to dating is pretty much a waste of time.
However, even though there are countless reasons why you should be dating online, there are also certain aspects of internet dating that are less than pleasant.
In this article we review some of those aspects and pinpoint the pitfalls that can put a damper on your online dating experience.
Pitfall 1: Fewer Members From Your Area
With so many online dating sites out there it can be tricky to choose the right one, and the rule of thumb is to go with a site that has a bunch of members from your area.
But what do you do when there is no such site and when very few people near you are dating online?
The best approach to this problem is to join a large online dating site with thousands of users and huge member bases because online dating is a numbers game, and the more users there are the better your chances of finding someone.
Look for people who live in the 60-100 mile radius. Although 100 miles might be too far away to meet up for a brief coffee date, if the right person lives just a few towns away from you, that distance shouldn’t be an issue.
Pitfall 2: You Wait Too Long Before You Set Up A Date
The window of opportunity on the online dating sites isn’t as big as you’d expect. Most people talk to more than one person at a time and are trying to set up as many dates as possible and see if they can find their perfect match.
If you wait too long before you ask the person out on a date, chances are they’re already dating other people and your perfect match might end up with someone else. In other words, don’t hesitate to go on as many dates as possible and set them up as soon as you start feeling comfortable chatting with someone online.
Pitfall 3: You Give Up Too Much Information
Before you set up a phone or a face-to-face date with someone, decide which topics you’d like to talk about and which are off the table. You might feel stupid or even played if you reveal too much information about yourself and realize you haven’t gotten much in return.
If there are some personal things you don’t want to discuss, be open and honest with the other person and state your position on the matter clearly. You might even say you don’t know them well enough to divulge certain private information and steer the topic into the direction of your choosing.
If you get rejected, don’t take it personally because in the early stages of any new relationship you shouldn’t go past your comfort zone.